the term “good client.” What does that mean?
My answer is based on my ideas and experiences; I don’t know precisely what makes a good client for another lady in this business. But based on a lot of other girls say on discussion board posts and their blogs, most of what I think makes a good client is pretty universal.
Almost everything that makes a client ‘good’ is motivated by respect for the lady.
A good client…
…recognizes the lady as an individual.
First and foremost, a good client is a man who recognizes that his paid companion is an individual woman and he respects her as a person. This usually requires some maturity in the client (which is why a lot of escorts don’t want to see men under 30), along with having had some solid relationships with women (also part of the reason for the 30-and-over rule).
Often, men who haven’t had much experience with escorts don’t understand this concept. They see escorts as a commodity or service and not as a personal relationship. With enough experiences, or meeting the right escort, they usually realize their mistake in perception and change their ideas about the person they pay for companionship.
Some men refuse to see any lady as more than a living sex doll. These men are almost universally loathed by escorts.
Good clients realize that they’re arranging to meet a person and start a relationship, much like dating. They view the search for a lady as informed blind-dating, not shopping for tires.
…pays correctly and is clean.
A good client shows his respect in two tangible ways. He always pays the correct amount without any fuss and he is clean.
Many escorts require payment up front in an envelope. A good client understands her rules and follows them to the letter (this usually involves not drawing attention to the moment). This establishes a lot of trust with her and he shows that he respects the way she chooses to run her business. (There are escorts who don’t require payment up front, but a client who does so anyway always wins points.) Even if he chooses to pay at the end of their time, he does so quickly and without discussion. It goes without saying that the amount is always correct.
And he is clean.
This is not always possible for a client coming straight from the office or an airplane. In that case, he will take advantage of any shower facilities available. It’s only polite and a good client is polite!
Many escorts like to keep mouthwash or sample-sized toothbrushes/toothpaste handy as well. A good client intuitively knows why those items are there and uses them if he needs to.
A good client does not haggle or negotiate. An escort’s rates are her rates. Period. If he wants a better deal, he can become a regular client and try to negotiate from there (with a better chance of success) or he searches for someone within his financial range.
All escorts are luxury items, no matter what they actually charge. A paid companion is not a basic necessity for life. Good clients recognize payment for what it is – a charge for an out-of-the-ordinary personal experience.
…doesn’t push boundaries.
A good client does not try to push boundaries. I discuss physical and emotional boundaries. A good client doesn’t try to force his way past whatever boundary lines a lady decides to draw in her work.
Some men think such boundaries are there as a personal challenge. Others feel they can use money as a tool to bribe their way past the comfort zone. These men aren’t good clients. A good client respects his companion and realizes there’s a reason for how she structures her work. A lady can create any number of boundaries for herself – from safer sex to intimacy to travel arrangements; she makes her decisions based on what she feels is best for her well-being.
There are clients who are invited to cross the lines. (They’re always good clients, which is why they get the invitation in the first place.) Her safer sex practices should never be flexible, but she may feel comfortable enough to relax some of her other boundaries. A good client is a man who recognizes that the lady leads this dance and waits for her to bring him further into her comfort zone.
A good client understands why a lady needs to screen and willingly shares the information she requests. Of course, good clients are also worried about what happens with their information. They will do their best to find escorts that seem reputable, reliable, selective, discreet and trustworthy. A lady who wants to attract good clients will make sure she doesn’t cause doubts in an already-skeptical potential client.
Men who don’t care about an escort’s safety won’t be willing to give even minimal screening information. They aren’t good clients.